At first he believed that she just didn’t like him, but he decided to challenge his limiting belief and assert his desires.
In a flirtatious way Ben asked, “May I have a kiss? Immediately after, she snuggled under his arm and she would occasionally kiss his cheek during the rest of the movie.
His directness bought the relationship closer, not only physically, but emotionally as well.
A response to assertive vulnerable communication is always very telling.
Jon decided that he wasn’t going to put up with this and he called it off. He no longer had to worry about all the theories he had about her behavior.
A few months later, Jon found out through a friend that Kara had been going through a divorce and was still hooking up with her ex.
Most guys struggle in their dating lives because they choose not to assert themselves in fear of being rejected, or being deemed unmanly for seeming needy. I used to date girls that would make me feel insecure.
What someone says has everything to do with them and very little to do with you.◊♦◊ Asserting yourself and communicating effectively is the fastest and most direct way to recognize whether your prospective partner will be able to meet your needs.
Again, at the end of the night, she bolted out the door. This behavior is typically hard for Jon because he is always scared of the response and potential rejection, but he told himself that at the age of 28, that he had no more time to waste on the wrong girl.
He asked Kara to meet him for coffee and a walk around a nearby lake.
He was beating around the bush at first, but finally spoke up.“I’m looking for a relationship. ”The mystery behind her behavior wasn’t so mysterious after all – it was clear that despite wanting a relationship, Kara really wanted a companion while she figured out what was happening in her divorce.
Kara told him that she found him attractive and expressed her desire for being in relationship.