Stopping daughter from dating
Her question for me was when should this conversation take place.Now, before the 4 of July holiday or to wait until right before her daughter returns to school.Then, perhaps you can make a suggestion that you both can live with.If it’s a serious relationship that might be heading toward marriage, you may want to give your child these .And, hopefully, they will honor you and trust you enough to follow your lead.But if they don’t follow your advice, as painful as it may be, they may have to experience failure for them to learn for the future.For example, you might say, “I noticed last week that you skipped your classes so you could spend more time with John. ” Of course, then ask follow up questions as necessary so that they can come to their own conclusion about the wisdom, or lack of it, in their decision.It’s important for your child to come to those conclusions themselves.
” If your child says, “Nothing,” gently let them know that “nothing” is not an option.Her concern is if she has this conversation now it will ruin her family’s summer because her daughter will be impossible to live with, but if she waits she will have to continue watching her daughter be smitten with this boy for the rest of the summer. She will stop confiding in you and start sneaking around behind your back. She could even do something crazy like move out, quit school or get married. I think you should invite your daughter’s boyfriend into your home from time to time. You didn’t mention if he was abusive in any way or controlling.My recommendation: Don’t have this conversation at all. You mentioned your daughter’s high school friends held an intervention with her. Just that she is too young, this is the first boy she’s dated and that she spends too much time with him. Encourage her to make new girl friends especially at school, to try everything, even things her boyfriend doesn’t like to do.They were hoping their smart, beautiful daughter would find a new boyfriend when she was away at college last year, but that didn’t happen.She is now home for the summer and spends all her free time with her boyfriend. When Jess would not allow her daughter to attend an out-of-state family reunion with her boyfriend after their own family vacation was cancelled Jess’s daughter spent the entire weekend sulking in her room.